Hartleys funeral was a complete unknown and something that was really worrying me. What do you do, he didn't have any favourite music, he didn't do anything that people could stand up and talk about and as i said before, there were no memories that we could think about?
The chaplain, David came to see us and explained the way baby funerals are generally done. He had lost his grandson at 15 weeks old through cot death and i think his understanding of the grief he felt gave him the empathy and kindness that seemed to envelop us.
He gave us the opportunity to add anything we wanted up until we arrived on the day, David said to us that some people write a letter to their baby to say goodbye..........Its still so unreal even now. I wrote some words that actual did rhyme through pure chance for our little lovely Hartley and made a cover for the service to go in. It was my only chance to create things for him and they had to be absolutely perfect.